Fear and Worry!!

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"For many of us, fear, worry, and anxiety play a key role in our lives, robbing us of joy and keeping us from fulfilling our dreams." The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of OA p. 37
Fear of losing my job, fear of being "found out," fear of not being good enough or not being a good mother, wife, friend, daughter. Fear of never having enough…love, food, money, or "stuff." I can create fear in any aspect of my life. In program we talk about fear meaning "false expectations appearing real." Nine times out of ten, when I create some kind of expected fear, it's usually my drama and the outcome is nothing like what I imagined. It's usually a very mild, non-dramatic outcome. And once again I ask "why do I do this to myself?" When I spend my time worrying about outcomes and living in fear I'm wasting my time and robbing those around me of being present and available. It's always best to turn my fears and anxiety over to my Higher Power.
Disclaimer:  The opinions expressed here are those of the individual OA member and do not represent OA as a whole.

Suggested Agenda for December IG Meeting

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This is subject to change, but as of this time our suggested agenda includes:


  • Appointment for the Vice Chair position
  • Appointment for the PI/PO Committee Chair
  • Probable appointment for another Committee Chair position depending on voting outcomes
  • Finalizing budgets so that we can vote in February to setour budget (budget submissions and projects are up for discussion at this meeting)


For those who are ready to step into some committee work, there will be open discussion about projects at this upcoming IG meeting, and your ideas are VERY welcome, especially at this time.  We have experienced some shifting of positions, and where we might normally redirect discussion to being worked through committees before coming to IG, this meeting will be the exception. 

~ Linda, Triad IG Chair

Giving Thanks…

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With Thanksgiving upon us this week I have to say that I'm full of gratitude in so many aspects of my life. My ability to be full of gratitude even with the ups and downs and the rollercoaster of life, I can still see how blessed I am every day. I can attribute this to working my OA program every day and applying it to all areas of my life. I can handle situations which used to baffle me, I can let go of controlling everyone and everything around me, I can laugh even when I'm crying and most of all have so much relief that someone else is in charge. I take my Higher Power with me whether I'm going to a food-laden event, whether I'm going to be around family members which always push my buttons or whether I'm going to an important business meeting. My Higher Power rides with me in the car, holds my hand, listens and gives me lots of hugs. My Higher Power will be with me on Thursday when I'm around lots of food, lots of family and he will give me strength to look at the true meaning of Thanksgiving and what it's really all about…NOT the food!! What a refreshing way to live my life. Happy Thanksgiving all!

Disclaimer:  The opinions expressed here are those of the individual OA member and do not represent OA as a whole.

Gratitude & Service

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My heart is full of gratitude for everyone who attended the Fall Serenity Day in Kernersville yesterday. What a wonderful afternoon!

Thank you to Kristie the inspirational speaker from Raleigh.  Wow!  What an amazing program she works every day. She has a way of combining a no-nonsense sensibility with quiet compassion and understanding.  Her commitment to abstinence is truly inspirational.

And thank you to Anne P., our Special Events Chair who coordinated the afternoon events for us – you are an amazing lady, Anne!  This was exactly what we needed for IDEA day (International Day Experiencing Abstinence) right before the holiday season zooms into full swing.

And thank you to Lynne who coordinated the skit, and to Pete who stole the show! :kiss


Thank you to everyone who helped Anne put this event together and to everyone who shared their experience, strength and hope with the rest of us. Thank you to everyone who drove from near and far to attend.  For all the ways service was freely offered yesterday, thank you!

Thank you for the reminder that

We are not alone. 

December Intergroup Meeting


December 4, 2010
10:00 amto3:00 pm




Benjamin Branch Library
1530 Benjamin Parkway
Greensboro, NC 27408
(877) 366-4605

From Winston-Salem & points west
Take I-40 to EXIT 210 (Hwy 68)
Turn LEFT at the bottom of the ramp onto Hwy. 68 North
Go about 2 miles
Take the EXIT for Bryan Blvd/PTI Airport
Follow Bryan Blvd. toward Greensboro for about 8 miles
Take the EXIT for Holden Road North (the second one)
Turn RIGHT onto Holden at the top of the ramp
Go less than a mile on Holden Road to the second stop light
(not including the flashing caution light at Gracewood)
Turn RIGHT onto Benjamin Parkway
Go a couple hundred yards and
Turn LEFT onto Oakcrest Ave
Benjamin Library is on the corner on your RIGHT

From Gibsonville & points east
Take I-40 to EXIT 135 (Rock Creek Dairy Road)
Turn RIGHT at the top of the ramp onto Rock Creek Dairy Rd
Go 100 yards to the stop light
Turn LEFT onto Hwy 70-westbound
Go about 12 1/2 miles (Hwy 70 will turn into Wendover Ave in Greensboro)
Take the EXIT for Benjamin Parkway North
Follow ramp to Benjamin Pkwy
Go through two stop light intersections
Take the RIGHT FORK to stay on Benjamin Pkwy
Benjamin Branch Library is less than half a mile on your RIGHT

Fall Serenity Day

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November 20, 2010
1:00 pmto5:00 pm
1:00 pmto5:00 pm





"Gratitude & Service"

Main St. United Methodist Church
306 S. Main St.
Kernersville, NC 27284

Guest Speaker from Raleigh/Durham

"Service is Gratitude in action"

"Gratitude is abstinence insurance"


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"And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation–some fact of my life–unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism (compulsive overeating), I could not stay sober (abstinent); unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes." AA Big Book p. 449
Early in program I used to practice acceptance only when it made sense to me. Many times the things that frightened me the most I would hang on to so that I could try to worry the situation into some resolution. The more I held on, the more I worried, well, that resolution never came. Now even when things are tough, troubling and I can't quite understand why, I still turn to my Higher Power and trust that things are exactly as they should be. It's God's will not mine.
Disclaimer: The opinions expressed here of those of the individual OA member and do not represent OA as a whole.

Holiday Serenity

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Oh, it's that time of year! Prior to program Halloween would be where my binge would start with the over-indulgence with all the candy. Then I'd wake up out of my fog around January 1st or 2nd with so much regret, shame, remorse and self-loathing. The holiday season was all about excess stuff…food, toys for the kids, goodies, desserts, spending money, parties, etc. It doesn't have to work that way any longer. It's this time of year that I step up my program and become more diligent and committed to using the tools, calling my sponsor, working the steps and working with my sponsees. The deeper I'm in program, the more committed I am and the more simple the holiday season is. I now know that it's about family and fellowship and living in the spirit of what each holiday is all about. It's amazing when I come out on the other side of the holiday season either maintaining my weight, losing weight and not waking up on January 1 committing to yet another new diet and that THIS will be the year I'm losing x amount of weight! That is the beauty and miracle of OA.
Disclaimer:  The opinions expressed here are those of the invidual OA member and do no represent OA as a whole.

Living in the NOW…

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"Nothing that happened yesterday or that may happen tomorrow is more important than NOW." For Today p. 248
I'm known for looking behind at my past and stewing over mistakes, how things could have been or how things should have been…mostly I should have been "better" is the thought that comes to mind.  I'm also known for looking WAY into the future and not just planning but over planning and obsessing over upcoming events and focusing on "to do" lists. I used to write out so many post-its of "to dos" that I'd have to consolidate the ones on my desk with the ones in my purse with the ones on my fridge…ridiculous. Right now, there is nothing that I need to think about in the future and nothing that I need to plan for. I just need to focus on today and my tasks at hand and MOST OF ALL enjoy this gift that God has given me today.
Disclaimer:  The opinions expressed here are those of the OA member and do not represent OA as a whole.