Spiritual Journey

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Over the last 10 years I've been on a spiritual journey, ever re-defining what God or my Higher Power is to me. When I entered the rooms, I thought I had the spiritual aspect licked as I believed in God and had gone to church from time-to-time. What I didn't realize is that I would question my beliefs and struggle with my idea of God for many years. Today, I can't tell you exactly what my Higher Power (HP) is or looks like. However, I do know that there have been too many coincidences and miracles in my life to not believe in a Higher Power and to know that someone/something is looking after me. I have asked myself if I really need to define what or whom my HP is and have something tangible to hold onto. For today, just believing in a power greater than myself and having someone/something to turn my will and my life over to is all that matters. I know that as I grow and blossom in program, so will my spiritual recovery. I learn something new every day from this program and grow every day from it. I will trust that my spiritual recovery will continue to do the same and I will continue to turn my will and my life over each day to a power greater than myself.  And what a relief to know that someone/something else is in charge and I don't have to be in control!!
 
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July Recovery Workshop!

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July 21, 2012
1:00 pmto5:00 pm

 

 

 

Griffith Baptist Church
1987 Old Salisbury Rd
Winston-Salem, NC 

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I make mistakes but am not a mistake

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I make mistakes because I'm human but it does not mean that I am a mistake.  I make mistakes, many mistakes and most likely I make them every day. But, I'm human and so does every other human being on this planet…it is how we were made. If I focus on those mistakes and the "bad" I tend to convince myself that I'm actually a mistake. All those years of striving to be perfect, to do it just right, never fully absolves itself. It takes practice to continue to accept my mistakes, make my amends, admit them out loud and then hand them over and MOVE ON! If I flip this around and stop looking at all the mistakes, there are so many things that are "good" that I do each day. If I made a list, my "good" would most likely outweigh the "bad." However, as a compulsive overeater it is one of my character defects that I focus on the negative and make myself "wrong" or "bad." In this program I am slowly learning to love myself for exactly who I am and focus on the good in me, all the good that everyone else around me sees and loves.
 
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Definition of Abstinence

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I would like to carry a topic forward from our June OA newsletter. The newsletter topic was on step 6 which uncovered the discomfort with our new definition of abstinence which was re-defined in May of 2011. When I joined program, abstinence was defined as "the action of refraining from compulsive overeating" and in May 2011 came the addition of "while working towards or maintaining a healthy body weight." I too have had issues with the new definition. We speak of not being a diet and calories club, however, you better control your food so you can control your weight. And, if you don't "look" right (whatever that may be) then you must not be abstinent and you must not be working a good program. Some well given advice I heard early on was not to be a slave to the scale; not to give it power. Yet, doesn't the scale have to come into play on a regular basis in maintaining that healthy weight and measuring where one is? The first nerve that was touched was around the newcomer. How would a newcomer feel when they walk in the door and feel as if they still have to be on a diet and still have to try to control their weight? They key part of program is our powerlessness and the willingness to finally give up control! Then, the next nerve that was struck was regarding my own body image. I have struggled all my life with feeling comfortable in my own skin, feeling beautiful just as I am. But now, with the new definition, it stirs up all that old stuff and I began to question "is my body really OK?" and the cycle started all over again. And who is the judge, the deciding factor on what a healthy body weight is? Who ultimately decides that I'm OK just as I am and that I "pass the test" so-to-speak? It is definitely not another OA person who should be working their individual program. I don't know what the answer is, but I agree with the author in the article when she said "I would love a definition for abstinence that is so simple as to become a brief breath I feel as I am turning my other cheek."
 
 

Weight Gain

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Sometimes, along the recovery journey there are bumps in the road in regards to physical recovery. Sometimes it's total relapse and other times it might be too much slipping and sliding or it might be due to health issues or medications. Either way, everyone is welcome in the rooms and it is not anyone's place to judge or criticize. I recently encountered some health issues and weight gain due to medication. There was lots of shame and self loathing during this time. Now it's time to pick myself up, dust myself off and plow into what I have learned over the last 10 years to get me back on track. Just because of a bit of weight gain does not mean I'm not recovered and don't have a wonderful message to carry to those that still suffer. As a matter of fact, because of this bump along my journey I have even more to share that life continues to happen! And, thanks to my sponsor, the steps, the tools and this program I can continue to recover and feel peace and serenity and I can use what I have learned to deal with life on life's terms without thinking I'm not still recovered and working a solid program.
 

 

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June Intergroup Meeting

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June 9, 2012
10:00 amto1:00 pm

 

 

Budget decisions to be made at this Intergroup Meeting
All input is welcome!

Holy Comforter Episcopal Church
Parish House
320 East Davis St
(The Parish House is on the corner of Webb and Broad)|
Burlington, NC 27215

 


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June Recovery Workshop

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June 16, 2012
1:00 pmto4:30 pm

 


Griffith Baptist Church
1987 Old Salisbury Rd
Winston-Salem, NC 

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