I make mistakes because I'm human but it does not mean that I am a mistake. I make mistakes, many mistakes and most likely I make them every day. But, I'm human and so does every other human being on this planet…it is how we were made. If I focus on those mistakes and the "bad" I tend to convince myself that I'm actually a mistake. All those years of striving to be perfect, to do it just right, never fully absolves itself. It takes practice to continue to accept my mistakes, make my amends, admit them out loud and then hand them over and MOVE ON! If I flip this around and stop looking at all the mistakes, there are so many things that are "good" that I do each day. If I made a list, my "good" would most likely outweigh the "bad." However, as a compulsive overeater it is one of my character defects that I focus on the negative and make myself "wrong" or "bad." In this program I am slowly learning to love myself for exactly who I am and focus on the good in me, all the good that everyone else around me sees and loves.
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