I have gradually learned via program to show up for myself. It may mean that I need to tell someone they have hurt my feelings, it may mean that I have to tell someone "no" at work or it may mean that I'm just my true, authentic self at all times. I spent so many years worrying about what others thought of me and constantly sought out advice. I never trusted my own decisions and needed to have the backing of others to let me know if I was on the right track. Program has taught me that I can make decisions on my own. I most definitely will make mistakes, but my choices are my choices. My goal in life is not to please others or do what I think others think that I should do. It's about God's will and waking up each morning knowing that he will guide me. And in the end, it is only his opinion that matters.
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